Last week we had our good friend Nicole over for dinner and to discuss ideas. We met Nicole years ago when Liane was an administrative person at an architectural firm where Nicole was a drafter. She and her husband Jim, who is a GREAT handyman, fix it, built it type of guy, have been good friends ever since. I’ve seen enough of her work to know she’s good at it. More importantly, I trust her. We’ve talked to her on and off over the past couple of years about this idea of building, and getting her to lay out the plans should we ever do it. She believes she can take all of our wants and wishes and come up with something that will work, and be feasible. We met with her over lunch a few weeks ago and discussed some of the big ideas, but this meeting was to really get down to specifics. She left with a long list of wants and needs, and even notes on things where Liane and I don’t quite agree. It will be interesting to see how she reconciles some of that.
The dynamic of reaching an agreement amongst two opinionated people has proven interesting so far. We both know the significance of this undertaking, and we both know the decisions we make will for all practical purposes be permanent, so the stakes are rather high. While we have a variety of specific wants, there are a few things each of us feels very strongly about, and in some cases those things are at odds with one another. A real estate agent we met with a few days ago told us he’s seen people wind up getting divorced during the process of buying or (mostly) building a house. Yikes! The trick, for now, has been to not follow every possible scenario all the way down the rabbit hole. We’re just taking things one step at a time and feeling the whole process out as we go. As things get gradually more specific and concrete I am hopeful that good judgment will prevail and the correct decisions will be made.
Haven’t ruled out just buying a place yet…if we can find one.
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